people pleasing

  • Nobody Can Know

    I spent so much of my life believing there were things nobody could know. Somewhere along the way, though, “I have things I need to hide” became “I am someone who needs to be hidden.”

    I have worked incredibly hard to become a woman who feels safe being herself. What I am realizing now is that feeling safe with myself and feeling safe enough to be fully known by someone else are two very different things. Maybe healing this next layer is learning that I can be seen without abandoning the person I fought so hard to become.

  • You Can Be Kind Without Making Yourself Small

    You can be gentle, clear, and rooted in yourself, without shrinking to be accepted Article is also featured on Substack & Medium Intro Last week I had a much-needed visit with my best friend. We chatted about life, vented our frustrations, and she told me about how she had recently set a boundary with someone…